A SERIES OF INSPRIRED FOLLIES

Reseda, California 1971 I’m not wearing shoes, and the soles of my feet burn on the macadam, so I skip and hop up to the pale cement of the sidewalk, where it’s cooler. This causes me to fall behind my father, and I have to jog to catch up. I check his face; he hasn’tContinue reading “A SERIES OF INSPRIRED FOLLIES”

Good Enough: Why Not Quite is Just Right (for Parents)

I met Judith when her son, Adam, was about 12 years old and was first diagnosed with a psychotic disorder. He had been very hard to deal with for some time but she and her husband had found it difficult to acknowledge there was something medically wrong with him. They had spent many years tryingContinue reading “Good Enough: Why Not Quite is Just Right (for Parents)”

The Energy Ball: What not to do when your kid drops the ball.

Imagine you are watching your adolescent play a game of basketball. Only it’s not any game of basketball. This game is special. Your child is the only one on the court. You are the only one watching but, for whatever reason, this game is really important. The outcome will have an impact on your child’sContinue reading “The Energy Ball: What not to do when your kid drops the ball.”

For D. on the Occasion of her Graduation

For D. on the Occasion of her Graduation 06/17/2017 The day was ours The sun it shone We were young I borrowed you Your baby arms Your silk white hair Your pale eyes I borrowed you Your skin like cake Your heart of pink Your tiny jeans I borrowed you Your chubby feet I sawContinue reading “For D. on the Occasion of her Graduation”

Hat

 You were wearing this hat that made you look like a kid. Your car keys hung round your neck on a child’s lanyard. It was dark and you stood with one black boot pointed at the door, telling me that you were going and don’t worry and you’d be back, later. It’s raining I said. NoContinue reading “Hat”

Vanilla Ice Cream

Yesterday it occurred to me that if we don’t want our kids to do a certain thing then maybe we just shouldn’t do it. Like for example, if I don’t’ want my kid to eat vanilla ice cream then I just won’t eat the flipping vanila ice cream. I won’t sneak around eating it or goContinue reading “Vanilla Ice Cream”